Effective Parenting Skills - Kids Grow With Guns Whether We Like It Or Not

As a parent, you are very likely to be against guns. The kind of guns that are used for violence against people. Just seeing one can send a shiver up your spine. An ideal society would be gunless but that can only be realized by a society of law-abiding citizens. If only law-breakers had guns, the gunless citizens would be without protection. In these times, differentiating the law-breakers from the law enforcers is difficult.

It is necessary to be able to enforce peaceful toys in the home. You have to be conscientious regarding this because children will go from plastic toy guns to guns that shoot water. Currently, air soft guns that fire plastic pellets are the 'in' thing. They are not cheap, either.

Role-playing and video games are slightly behind the air guns but on a computer or in the imagination, war can be more fully acted out. Though you might not be aware of it, your kids improve on their social skills after they get involved with playing war games. With other kids that share the same interests, they learn to work as a team. No one is harmed and it is a clean way to have fun. The proper protective clothing such as long sleeves and pants, face masks and goggles are worn. There are some adults who play, not for fun but with hurting others as the goal.

No matter how your children try to justify it, you should not alter your stance on toy guns. They should understand that asking you to buy the guns for them is out of the question. They will most likely try to convince the other parent, though. The way you react is based on economics, though. "That much? We could buy food for a month for that! No, don’t even think it!"

Things like hazing are a completely different because it is violence done deliberately. It isn't a game any more. There is real pain. It is different than paint ball where you can wash the paint off when the game is finished. Your hands really are dripping with blood.

Nothing is learned about brotherhood in hazing, it is all about revenge. One group has to take a mouthful of milk from a half-full glass, spit it back and pass the glass to the next person. By the time it reaches the end of the line, it is almost full. This group will repeat the same thing or something worse to their pledges. This is how violence is escalated.

Does every boy or girl have to undergo this kind of rite of passage to become a man or woman? Fathers who do well in life without ever having joined a fraternity prove that they are not at all needed. It is sure that you don't want your children to learn that stealing test answer sheets is not proof of brotherhood or is any definition of it.

It is said that movies, television and comics is responsible for the breeding of a violent culture. With enough exposure to violence, a person's senses become inured to violence. People become desensitized to the bloody, gory images presented to them. The feeling of power can be like a drug. Many things, like guns and cars, can give a person a sense of power. Some people go from mild mannered to aggressive when they get behind the wheel. The same kind of thing can happen when a person is given a badge and a gun.

Can anything be done to change the violent culture that has been created? Those involved with violence in fraternities should be dealt with more strictly. It would help if students abstained from joining any fraternities. Many who do join fraternities do so out of a need to feel as though they belong. Being part of some 'brotherhood' will not guarantee anything, a student still can and needs to pass courses and find positions on their own merits.

Fraternity members are well liked by girls. But girls should remember that fraternity membership doesn't mean a man is necessarily a good man. This is especially true when it takes things like being able to take a beating and giving one to others to get into a fraternity. If there are no new pledges, fraternities will eventually cease to exist.

In addition to curtailing the amount of violence your children are subject to in the mass media, you also have to educate them in the best way to manage power. A person with power has greater responsibility. To be a good leader means more than just giving orders to others, it means being humble and serving others. Children need to also learn that brotherhood can result from something other than enduring pain and inflicting the same pain on others.

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